Dear Abby may be my new hero

Who is the true bigot here?  Read on my followers…

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I relocated to Florida a little over a year ago and were quickly welcomed into our new neighbors’ social whirl. Two couples in the neighborhood are gay — one male, one female. While they are nice enough, my husband and I did not include them when it was our turn to host because we do not approve of their lifestyle choices. Since then, we have been excluded from neighborhood gatherings, and someone even suggested that we are bigots!

Abby, we moved here from a conservative community where people were pretty much the same. If people were “different,” they apparently kept it to themselves. While I understand the phrase “when in Rome,” I don’t feel we should have to compromise our values just to win the approval of our neighbors. But really, who is the true bigot here? Would you like to weigh in? — UNHAPPY IN TAMPA

DEAR UNHAPPY: I sure would. The first thing I’d like to say is that regardless of what you were told in your previous community, a person’s sexual orientation isn’t a “lifestyle choice.” Gay people don’t choose to be gay; they are born that way. They can’t change being gay any more than you can change being heterosexual.

I find it interesting that you are unwilling to reciprocate the hospitality of people who welcomed you and opened their homes to you, and yet you complain because you are receiving similar treatment.

From where I sit, you may have chosen the wrong place to live because it appears you would be happier in a less integrated neighborhood surrounded by people who think the way you do. But if you interact only with people like yourselves, you will have missed a chance for growth, which is what you have been offered here. Please don’t blow it

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the ramblings of a medical professional by day, judgmental ginger by night
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3 Responses to Dear Abby may be my new hero

  1. Bob Slatten says:

    It was maybe twenty years ago that the original Dear Abby [Abigail van Buren] received a similar letter from a woman who said a gay couple had moved into her neighborhood and she didn’t agree with their lifestyle. She asked Abby what she could do and Abby gave them a three word answer;
    “You could move.”

  2. Bruce says:

    Brilliant reply. I only hope that there is room left for growth and maturation in the neighborhood relationships.

  3. Brian says:

    The original Abby and the new one are both right! For once it’s nice to see ignorance on display and a fabulous response.

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