Now y’all know I try not to play sides. (insert side-eye here)
Ah, Easter. That time when all your friends that gave up Facebook for Lent come back, but you didn’t notice they were gone.
One cannot and must not try to erase the past, merely because it does not fit the present.
I’ve been known to get a little political on this blog every so often, and I fully admit to a more liberal stance on most issues although I like to think I’m fiscally more conservative. Most of my friends are of the same political persuasion, with a few notable exceptions (including most of my family), so when heated political issues come up or election seasons comes around – it does sometimes feel like an “us versus them” battleground. Then I saw this picture on Twitter the other day, and I started thinking (yet again) about what a mess our political system is and how it really doesn’t serve the very people who it’s supposed to.
I mean… what are we actually fighting for if in the end, it doesn’t actually help us out?
Ever feel like no one else understands your job? I will fully admit that when people tell me they are in “consulting” or “marketing”, I often have no idea what they are talking about. If your job title doesn’t actually explain what you do – for example, teacher or lawyer – then I’m pretty much in the dark.
The feeling that other people have no idea what you do for a living stings a little bit more when the person who is clueless is one of your parents. My job is fairly easy for my mother to grasp (surgeon), but I’m guessing she gets a little confused when it comes to what my two sisters do. But don’t worry if mom or dad doesn’t understand your job title… you’re not alone.
35% of parents don’t understand what their adult child does for a living.
Yup… let that one sink in for a minute. So if mom or dad does understand your job… consider yourself lucky. And if not, don’t sweat it.
Always remember: you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, & twice as beautiful as you’d ever imagined.
If you can’t be grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you’d be grateful with more?
I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.
Stolen from a friend’s Facebook status…
Life consists not in holding good cards but playing those you hold well. But sometimes… it feels like ’52 pickup’.
Who is the true bigot here? Read on my followers…
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I relocated to Florida a little over a year ago and were quickly welcomed into our new neighbors’ social whirl. Two couples in the neighborhood are gay — one male, one female. While they are nice enough, my husband and I did not include them when it was our turn to host because we do not approve of their lifestyle choices. Since then, we have been excluded from neighborhood gatherings, and someone even suggested that we are bigots!
Abby, we moved here from a conservative community where people were pretty much the same. If people were “different,” they apparently kept it to themselves. While I understand the phrase “when in Rome,” I don’t feel we should have to compromise our values just to win the approval of our neighbors. But really, who is the true bigot here? Would you like to weigh in? — UNHAPPY IN TAMPA
DEAR UNHAPPY: I sure would. The first thing I’d like to say is that regardless of what you were told in your previous community, a person’s sexual orientation isn’t a “lifestyle choice.” Gay people don’t choose to be gay; they are born that way. They can’t change being gay any more than you can change being heterosexual.
I find it interesting that you are unwilling to reciprocate the hospitality of people who welcomed you and opened their homes to you, and yet you complain because you are receiving similar treatment.
From where I sit, you may have chosen the wrong place to live because it appears you would be happier in a less integrated neighborhood surrounded by people who think the way you do. But if you interact only with people like yourselves, you will have missed a chance for growth, which is what you have been offered here. Please don’t blow it
Stolen from a friend, but a great quote and words that echo what I often tell medical students, incoming residents, and those interested in pursuing a career in surgery but worried about having a personal life. Don’t put your life on hold because you are waiting for the “right time”. For many things in life, waiting for the “right time” may mean you are waiting forever.
If we let ourselves, we shall always be waiting for some distraction or other to end before we can really get down to our work. The only people who achieve much are those who want knowledge so badly that they seek it while the conditions are still unfavorable. Favorable conditions never come.
Michael Sam’s recent admission that he’s an openly gay football player has certainly causes quite a stir in the sports world. The public reaction, naturally, has been a mixed bag of support and ridicule (if you think we’ve conquered homophobia and discrimination in the United States, you’re clearly living under a rock). There have been some very interesting discussions from current coaches and players about Michael Sam’s prospects for the NFL draft as well – I’m still a big fan of Donte Stallworth’s tweet as well as John Stewart’s humerous take on the matter, but Dallas sports anchor Dale Hansen’s tirade was particularly poignant.
But then I read this blog post by John Loos of The Second City Network, and I nearly peed my pants. Loos sarcastically and adeptly provides a humerous and simultaneously down to earth “guide” for NFL stars on how to behave in a locker room where a gay man may be present. Check it out below.
Step 1: Acknowledge your gay teammate
Say hello. Say “nice game.” Perhaps give him a compliment on a tackle, or a catch, or a great run. Maybe throw in a high-five or, if that is too uncomfortable for you (it shouldn’t be), give any another indication that you’re happy he’s on your team, even if he plays for a different team off the field.
Step 2: Acknowledge that he’s human
Ask a question about his life. How’s his family? His partner? Talk about shared interests (Yes! You likely have shared interests with this homosexual human!) If you don’t know what this person likes, ask. Or talk about the weather! Or Beyoncé! Not because he’s gay, but because everyone, gay straight, male or female, Madagascan village elders or Inuit whale hunters, has something to say about Beyoncé. She’s the universal conversation starter.
Step 3: Get undressed
Because you just spent two hours playing in the mud and dirt, and it’s a locker room and you’re an adult — and get over yourself and seriously — you have to change out of your uniform. You smell like shit.
Step 4: Realize at this point, you’re looking at your gay teammate more than he’s looking at you
Why is he not looking at you? You’re attractive! You work out! Are you not his type? Maybe he’s only into punters. Oh my God, it’s almost as if your teammate is concentrating on getting cleaned up and getting home to his life, just like you were supposed to be before you got preoccupied with checking him out to see if he’s checking you out.
Step 5: Do your usual stealth glances of other naked teammates
Because straight men size each other up all the time in locker rooms. But it’s from a place of competition, which is far more acceptable for some reason. Bros bein’ bros, etc.
Step 6: Realize at this point, you’re being paid millions of dollars to exist on this team with this gay person, so you’ll survive somehow
At the absolute worst, this teammate finds you attractive and has a moment of weakness and lets one little glance slip that you catch, and you notice because you’re (of course) already staring at him. Now you know how the thousands upon thousands of breasts you’ve stared at slack-jawed in your lifetime feel. Congratulations, Margaret, you’ve just become a woman!
Step 7: Count the number of half-naked teammates around you and divide by 10
That’s how many actually are gay, whether they’ve stated it publicly or not. And they’ve been there all along, since you started playing football in high school, and somehow you’re still alive and unscathed and making millions of dollars.
Step 8: Shower
Because, again, you smell. If your gay teammate is showering at the same time, kudos to you for noticing he walked into the showers. Why are you watching him so closely, anyway? Seriously, are you cruising him?
Step 9: Dress, go home
And play with the piles of money you’ve earned from somehow being brave and manly enough to put on skin-tight capri pants, a jock strap and give other grown men really aggressive hugs and wrestle them to the ground.
The awesome tweet of the week goes to retired NFL receiver Donte Stallworth, who responded to a hypothetical question about recently out former Missouri defensive linemanplayer Michael Sam, who if drafted would become the first openly gay NFL football player.
Former coach Herm Edwards asked, “Can the players handle the media attention they are going to get when they get the question asked, ‘Are you okay with a gay teammate?’” in an ESPN interview Sunday night, claiming that intense media scrutiny might discourage a team from drafting Sam.
If any NFL team can’t “handle the media coverage” of drafting Sam, then your team is already a loser on the field… let me tell you why…
— Donte’ Stallworth (@DonteStallworth) February 10, 2014
Stallworth goes on to talk about how any team who can’t handle the media scrutiny of an event they can actually get a jump on will definitely not be able to handle the media scrutiny of unplanned occurrences throughout the year. Furthermore, with the number of arrests and court appearances that players make in any given year (hint… Aaron Hernandez) should be the real media spectacle.
Seriously considering filling my pockets with glitter, and whenever someone near me says something really stupid or rude, I’ll just reach into my pocket with a dead expression, release the glitter into the sky above their head, and watch it shower over them like a baptism of stupid.
Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’
~Mary Anne Radmacher
Swiped from a friend’s Facebook status… perfection.
For those of you who missed it or who don’t pay attention to such things, let me summarize this for you. Last night the President gave his State of the Union Address. That’s a fancy name for speech. He said some good things and he said some not so good things. A bunch of people focused on the good things and that’s what they’re talking about today. A bunch of people focused on the not so good things and they’re crying like spoiled children today. But in reality, it was just a speech and it has very little substantial impact on our country. Actions speak louder than words and remember, our political system is broken. Ignore the hype and have a great day.